It's hard to be humble when other peoples' ideas are stuck in the past and mistaken from the beginning.
Immediately after I arrived in Kilkenny Ireland in the autumn of 2001, I met a group of people who became my friends.
People even referred to it as "the group."
This was important, to me, at that time
But it's a trap, too, this belonging. People define you, when you're part of a group. They take you in, in more ways than the mere benevolent. They think that they own you; they make assumptions about who you really are and then they tend to hold on to these assumptions.
What they thought you were, when they met you and you weren't has also changed.